There are times when I enjoy working in the background, doing things on my own, and blending in with the crowd. I find that I get stuff done quickly without the distraction of small talk or just dealing with people in general. Of course, it can’t be helped that in most cases I need to work with a team, and I’m okay with that. I don’t even mind covering for people who are remiss in their duties or functions so long as I have an understanding of what I need to do, how to do them, and I have access to necessary tools to do whatever needs to be done.
That said, I still want to keep my face-to-face interactions with people as minimal as possible. I still prefer communicating through text or email, since I have some form of paper trail that I can go back on for whatever reason. Conversations over the phone has its benefits, but without any written proof it’s kind of difficult to back track unless these conversations were recorded. Also, with the written word, people are somehow compelled to read through the stuff you wrote before they respond. Not always though; there are some people who skim through haphazardly, then reply with a knee-jerk reaction. But at least it isn’t as bad as having difficult conversations that have people wanting to get their points across by interrupting others who also want to speak their minds.
Meanwhile, there’s something to be said about having a presence, something akin to relevance. It doesn’t bug me when I don’t want to be noticed because it will be on my own terms. What bugs me is when I choose to be noticed and nobody doesn’t, especially in the workplace. Apparently, the habit of ghosting has reached work. This is especially irritating when I’ve sent several emails already and my contact doesn’t respond for whatever reason within an acceptable time frame. I understand some queries may take time, and the timing of the response would depend on a bunch of different reasons. But come on! How hard is it to reply with a non-committal “this is noted” or something similar if you don’t have the answers yet? Is it really that difficult to say “we’ll get back to you” if you still need time to sort things out from your end?
It’s a different case when you get ghosted face-to-face. Like, when you’re treated as a non-presence. When people are deliberately ignoring you, doesn’t invite you to work-related gatherings. When they either forget you unless they need something from you. I guess this is one of the perils of choosing to blend into the wallpaper, to be unobstructive, when you become too non-conformist to office politics to the point that people are surprised when you pop out from their periphery.